How many of us have had frenemies? All you ladies know what I'm talking about... A frenemy is 1/2 friend and 1/2 enemy. In our daily lives, we all have to deal with unpleasant people. Sometimes, we have to deal with people like this because of our jobs or other requirements.
Here's my philosophy though: Why should I have to deal with someone like this on a constant basis in my personal life? Why should I expose myself to people who will stab me in the back? I understand that concept in the business world. It's my job to stand my ground. It's my job to woo this people, but why should I have to surround myself with people like this in my personal life?
My personal life is just that... personal. I should be able to surround myself with people I trust and feel at ease with. Why must I remain on guard 24/7? That gives me no time at all to enjoy the things I like. It gives me no time to live life.
We spend enough time working. We spend enough time having to be around people that we would really rather not be around. So I have decided that I am done with frenemies in my personal life.
If they aren't someone I can trust then I have no need for them. I am not dishonest or untrustworthy. There are some traits that I despise and won't tolerate them. Like lying... I'm not talking about little white lies like honey does this make my butt look big kind of lie... I'm talking about the kind of lie that says is deceitful or hurtful... like going around telling people a spouse of a friend is cheating on said spouse when there is no evidence to it. These types of lies are unacceptable. I think it really boils down to personal preference and I don't care what the psychologist of the hour has to say about it. It's not good for your health or well being.
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